You are about to discover the 3 reasons why you always fall in love with men who don’t want to commit:
Why do we fall in love with him?
Every meeting seems to arise from a series of fortuitous coincidences. In reality, every love affair has to do with the child within us. Whether it lasts a day or a lifetime, the meeting is magic. And everything that attracts or scares you in a man has to do with your past, from childhood onwards. The meeting does not happen by chance: in reality, every man is already unconsciously predisposed to that woman.
According to Freud, you only meet what already exists in your unconscious and, in a certain sense, you find your object of desire. You are attracted to this man because he resonates with the little girl who lives in the depths of your psyche. Prince Charming would be nothing more than “a man who perfectly matches your symptoms”.
If you like a man, it is because, with his way of doing things, he unconsciously takes you back to the first love relationship of your life: the one with your father. We all have the tendency to reproduce or escape from this ancient relationship that has left an indelible mark on us.
It is simplistic to believe that the man you love is always superimposable to the parent he represents. In reality, he does not correspond to your father, but to the images of him that you have projected into your unconscious.
Why should you fall in love with a person who resembles the parents with whom you had problems as a child?
Because you hope that he will help you heal the unhealed emotional wounds, that he will give you what your parents were not able to give you. By replicating these negative traits in your choice of partner, your unconscious mind is trying to recreate the conditions of childhood to correct them. To return to the scene to clarify the unresolved issues of the past.
You can miss a date by a fraction of a second! Maybe he is the right man, but it is not the right time. You think you are ready for a new and happy love, but you are still blocked by an old story that has not healed well. Just one detail out of place and you miss the date with the man of your life.
Why are you attracted to one man rather than another, even if sometimes he is less seductive, less handsome, less available?
Psychologists say that the initial attraction for a certain person depends strictly on the smell given off by pheromones.
They are mysterious substances that are secreted by the skin. These messages are decoded by your brain, which evaluates whether this man can become your right partner. But it is not only the biochemical mechanism that justifies falling in love, in fact, many other variables come into play. Which are difficult to define using only the criteria of rationality.
To make a man fall in love, it is of primary importance that he is in a mental state of predisposition.
There are periods in our life in which the mind and heart are closed, this blocks us from falling in love. It is important to know the conditions in which the man you like is. To understand if he is in a period of life not conducive to falling in love, or you have a good chance of having an easy game.
Why do all your stories with different men have a similar development, despite all your attempts to change things?
The reason lies in your vibrations. Every man who approaches you and touches you emotionally, has been attracted 80% by the strength of your vibrations and 20% by external factors.
There is always a reason when a man enters your life. It’s just that at first it’s not immediately obvious why. When you understand that everything is the vibration of your emotions, the causes will become clearer and you will experience a wonderful journey of self-discovery and of men.
Look at the man you are currently in a relationship with, or try to think about your last boyfriend. What you feel and how you feel determines your vibrations. And it attracts precisely those who are looking for what you radiate.
You don’t automatically attract men who are right for you, but those who might need what you radiate. The feeling of attraction is not the only reason why you met. This man has something you are nostalgic for, or represents something that is familiar and similar to you.
Men sense your vibrations and are attracted or repelled by them. Knowing your vibrations is the beginning of a fundamental change in your love life. It will save you a lot of research and experiments, time and a lot of disappointments.
