You’re not really a couple, but you’re definitely more than friends. He wants to keep it that way, instead of planning a future with you. You want to take your relationship to the next level, but he’s not ready for that. Yet, he doesn’t want to let you go either.
You feel stuck in a dead-end relationship, and there are only two ways out: Either he’ll commit to you, or he’ll let you go and give you a chance to find the right man for you.
It seems so simple, yet it can be so difficult. You may think he just needs a little more time to make a decision, but don’t get your hopes up. There are many reasons why he doesn’t want to commit to you right now. These reasons may even fade away with time. But are you ready to invest your precious time in something so uncertain?
The specific reason a man doesn’t want to commit is still important in determining how to proceed.
He doesn’t want to commit and you’re wondering what to do? Here are 8 things to do:
1. Have an honest and open conversation.
Before you do anything, you should talk to him, especially if you’re still not sure why he doesn’t want to commit. Let him know that you want to move things forward with him and see if there’s any chance you can have a serious relationship with him. If he avoids the topic at all costs, that alone tells you what you need to know.
2. Let him know that he won’t lose his independence.
When you talk to him about committing, let him know that he won’t lose his freedom and independence. He may be afraid that he won’t have a life outside of the relationship once he’s committed to you. Tell him that he shouldn’t be afraid of losing his independence in a relationship with you. If he realizes that he will have his own life, free and not suffocated, maybe he’ll change his mind.
3. Walk away.
If he doesn’t want to commit to you, he will probably let you go after you have talked to him and you have to be ready for that. He can still contact you later, but he will probably let you go if he is not in love with you.
You can’t just threaten to walk away to convince a man that you are serious about walking away; you have to actually do it to show that you are serious and ready for the breakup.
4. Act like it’s up to him to win you over.
A man falls in love when he is the one chasing. He is involved when he is afraid of losing that woman. It is essential to become aware of your own value, adopt this mindset: “I am an amazing, attractive and high-value woman!” So reprogram your mind.
You have to reinforce the belief that you are an exceptional woman! This belief will induce seductive behaviors. A man falls madly in love with a woman who appears accomplished, confident, pleasant and independent! So cultivate your hobbies, play sports, enrich your friendships, read new books. And you will see how much this will help you consolidate your positive beliefs about yourself.
5. Play the final card, that of disappearing.
Often a man finally realizes that he is madly in love and ready to commit, when he loses the woman he thought was not good enough for him.
Tell him that you prefer to stop seeing him to give yourself the chance to meet other men, that you are no longer willing to wait for him. Simply, with dignity and firmness, end things with him. Disappear and do not give him any more news. There is a good chance that this decision will cause a reversal of the situation to realize everything he has lost.
6. Show him that you will leave.
So why not show him that you have other options and that you can also leave? Don’t make him think that he is the only one for you, because there are men who want you and who would commit to you. Show him what he will lose if you leave him and give him time to think about it.
Sometimes a man just thinks that your threat is empty because he will find a way to fool you. He thinks that you are just saying that you will end the relationship, but that will never happen. Show him that he has lost you with his behavior and that you are not going to spend your life with a man who can not decide what he wants. After seeing that you are serious, he will definitely try to win you back, if he is interested in you.
7. Restore the balance
Not ready for a relationship? You need to start from a healthy base by first finding a balance in the way you invest in the story. If you want to put the odds on your side to live a beautiful story, stop giving too much. If you chase him and suffocate him, he will leave you. But if you show him that you are a woman of high value, he will act differently.
8. Let him go
Stop treating this relationship as a treasure, without anger and without resentment. Right now, this man has yet to prove that he deserves your full attention, so put him back in a place that is not so important to you. Get out of this waiting dynamic, stop turning down proposals and keeping your evenings free in case he suggests seeing you.
If he tells you that he does not want a serious relationship, you do not owe him anything. Open yourself up to other dating opportunities. By making yourself available for other encounters, you regain your confidence and naturally increase your power of attraction. Take the power!
If what you want is a serious relationship, do not settle for a man who cannot give it to you. This is why it is so important to be truly ready to walk away. If you cannot fix things through communication and he is not willing to step forward and prove that he will be ready one day, you cannot wait forever.
He has your number and he knows you want a serious relationship with him, if he doesn’t use that number to tell you that he’s willing to work towards a future together, chances are he doesn’t want a future with you and you need to accept that.
A man can date you and have sex even if he doesn’t want a serious relationship. So, he might chase you even if he doesn’t want to be in a serious relationship. Don’t let him take you back to where you were. If he wants to be with you, he’ll have to commit to you, or at least make progress in that direction. Until that happens, focus on yourself and your life.
