You’ve been dating him for a few weeks and you already want a commitment from him. You do everything you can to be a couple and that’s what scares a man away and he pulls away. Many women make the mistake of giving a man the upper hand and letting him decide everything without imposing himself. These women want to be nice, but they end up not doing the right thing to get him to commit.
Maybe you’ve tried everything right, but you haven’t been able to get the love or attention you desperately want from your man.
Most women try to get a man in the wrong way and end up being unhappy. Many women push the man they want away when they try to get close to him and don’t even realize they’re doing it. In fact, if a man isn’t attracted to you, all your attempts to get him will backfire.
A strategy that many women use to win over a man is to be sweet and kind. For example, giving him lots of compliments or trying to help him with problems in his life, always answering the phone or responding to texts right away. You invest too much in this relationship to make it work. One of the biggest mistakes you can make in a relationship, without even being aware of it, is to give too much of yourself too soon. Remember, don’t invest too much to win over a man!
Most men don’t like women who pretend to be overly kind, available, clingy and nice just to attract him. Men prefer women who challenge them.
A man wants a woman with a sense of humor, who is confident in herself, without losing touch with her feminine and seductive side in the process. A man wants a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to get it.
Another technique you should avoid is declaring your love too soon!
When you tell a man how you feel about him in an attempt to show him how wonderful the two of you could be together, you are making a mistake!
When you tell him about your feelings, he starts to think that you are chasing him. And while he may be flattered by your interest, when he senses that you are starting to chase him, he will sense that you are becoming available and will completely lose all interest in you.
When you love a man, you naturally want him to feel the depth of your emotions and you are willing to do whatever it takes for that man. However, you have to be careful not to commit too much to a relationship without getting anything in return. Because that can be counterproductive and cause you pain. When that happens, you are just giving a man permission to start using you and to start taking you for granted.
If you want to be happy in your love life, never allow yourself to be the only one trying to make a relationship work. Balance is everything!
You want it all and you want it now!
Sometimes you feel like you’ve been alone too long and you want to commit to a man as soon as you meet him. A man doesn’t think that way, he actually needs some time to get to know you better. To learn everything about you and only then, if necessary, he falls in love and is willing to commit.
So, go slow with a man!
If you act this way towards a man before you’ve made him fall in love, it’s more likely to make him want to distance himself from you, rather than commit.
You push him to do things he doesn’t want to do! If you’re always chasing a man, he’ll soon feel suffocated and will pull away. So the best thing to do is to give a man the freedom he needs and let him decide how he feels about you.
Canceling Your Plans for Him is a Mistake! Trying to win over a man is not above other responsibilities. Just because you like this man and don’t want to lose him, doesn’t mean it’s okay for you to cancel your plans to be with him. By doing this, you are putting a man ahead of something else important in your life. Also, being busy and not always available will help keep him interested in you.
Another ineffective strategy I want to warn you about is the technique of being a friend with benefits in the hopes of making him fall in love.
For you, being with a man sexually can make you feel emotionally connected and more connected to him. On the other hand, a man can have a sexual history with a woman for years and never feel like she is more than a sexual partner to him.
Do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Maybe you don’t want to turn down his offer to spend the night because you’re worried he’ll think you’re not interested in him. Not only are you putting his desires ahead of your own, but you’re also making yourself very available and obvious.
These strategies will make you seem needy and unattractive to a man, and it will turn him off. If you want a man to feel attracted to you in a way that leads to something deeper and more fulfilling, you need to stop using these bad strategies.
Do you think a man will complete you? You don’t need a man to complete you! You’re already complete. You just need a man who will accept you completely. If you rely on him to make you happy, you’ll never achieve happiness.
