A woman that comes to love two men at once can ask herself:” Is normal the feeling I have?” The answer is “yes”. Everybody can live more passions and love two persons at once. One feeling doesn’t exclude the other.
Caterina, one of my friends, explained to me in following way the appearance of double love feeling in her soul: “ My partner is a seductive man, a perfect lover, but we have a problem: I can’t reveal to him all my fears, wishes and hidden thoughts. We talk just a little about general things. I felt deeper and deeper emptiness and began to get closer with Luca, one of my friends. We have fun, talk about everything and don’t have any secrets. As far as it concerns the intimate side, he barely attracts me sexually, it lacks something. On the contrary, I get overexcited only by a single look at my partner. “
Caterina is trapped between two rivers, feeding from both. These men symbolize for her the double side of love: physical and intellectual attraction. She lives physical attraction with her partner, and the intellectual one with her friend. In her imagination she united them to create absolute love. From psychological point of view Caterina loves both men, even if in a different way, because the one fills the other’s gaps.
More and more women have a parallel life. A long term boyfriend who they don’t want to break up with and a lover who brings back the sensations of first dates.
- Why a man is not enough for a modern woman?
- What is she searching for?
She is in search of tenderness and support. At a certain moment of life, the sexual attraction for their partner is not sufficient any more. Thus the double love story is born. Women feel often confused being trapped between two strong feelings. They ask themselves if it is normal to love two persons at the same time.
According to the opinion of author Piero Angela, described in the book “Ti amero per sempre”(Italy) ( I will love you forever) it is possible to love two persons at once: “ There are cases when some individuals practice three types of love with different persons: persons attached to their family, but able to prove romantic love for others and make sex with different partners. From neurological point of view, these are circuits that spark a blaze individually, but can also interact among them. “
It is possible to love two people, to receive nice surprises, to see how the old flame is lit up by new one, as though it feeds from the last. Your boyfriend and lover represent different types of love, two different sides of subconscious, both able to bring happiness. But is it possible feeling for two men such a complex and strong emotion as love? Heart has its own rules that don’t obey to the cold rationality.
The development of new relationships and love for two persons makes part from our nature.
Many women suffer emotionally and psychologically when they live this kind of double relationships. No woman having two relationships at once is able to make a choice. Because the choice could be painful: you are free to continue loving more persons at once, live two different lives that never intersect.
But who hides behind this kind of infidelity? Women unsatisfied by their partner come to love two men at once. These women decide to extend their sexuality in a double relationship after their multiple efforts to find a solution with partner that doesn’t offer them enough attention. Women that fear getting attached to one man end up to love two persons at once. They have a long term relationship with a serious man, in contrast to that they choose a lively and easy going lover. Women grow up relationships, sometimes genuine love, in such places like their work where they spend more time.
For some women romantic love and process of falling in love represent a physical need and they keep on searching all life for the one who can satisfy these desires. A new man with chivalry manners can turn your head. Sometimes these women end up loving two men at once in conditions of poor emotional management, two complementary and opposite elements. Double bitterness or double happiness? Happiness with two men is an euphoric feeling, but in terms of long term period that brings only anxiety and bewilderment.
The exit? The best thing you can do when you love two people at once is to take a decision that works instead of keeping two incomplete relationships.
