You are attracted to this man, but you feel like he is slipping through your fingers. So we need to change the dynamic and make him feel attracted to you. I know you are tired of this kind of thing, you want love to be simple, you want to build something meaningful with a man. The good news is that if you can apply the tips you find in this article, you will see a big change in the relationship.
Robert Cialdini says that human beings are attracted to what they do not have. So, if you are chasing a man and you give him a lot of love, attention, sex, you will see that he will not give you the same in return. Simply because you are no longer on a pedestal.
Many women are confused, because in the beginning he was the one who always made the first move and now he seems uninterested, but there is a reason behind this. When a man meets a woman for the first time, he sees her as a challenge, which he may not even be able to achieve.
So he knows exactly what he needs to do to make you fall in love with him and when he does that, the excitement of the chase wears off. That’s when you start showing your feelings, acting in love, becoming a little more vulnerable with him and doing more for him. And he starts doing the exact opposite! So, what can you do about it?
After working with so many women, I can confidently tell you what works and what doesn’t!
You’re about to discover some tips on how to stop chasing a man and get him interested:
The first piece of advice I have for you is to STOP chasing a man! That means no more texting, no more calling and definitely no more dating. He has to come to you. No more making the first move.
I know you are afraid that if you stop chasing a man, he will not make any effort, you will lose him. But it is just your fear, and if you can change your mindset and your approach, you will see the difference. He will realize that he is losing you and will start to change his attitude.
Why does chasing a man keep you away from love? When a woman chases a man, he has no reason to chase her and can lose interest. It is in men’s DNA and they want to be the hunter. So make sure you do not put a man on a pedestal and allow him to take you for granted. If you can make this man see you as a challenge, everything will change. This means that you should not talk to him about your feelings, telling him you are in love or asking him questions.
Your days of chasing this man are over! From now on, you will focus on becoming the new you, you will not do anything that makes you seem needy or clingy, and you will get back on that pedestal in his mind.
The busier you are in your life, the less time you will have to think about him and you will avoid chasing him! You need to become the best version of yourself. And this will help you raise your standards in terms of the kind of behavior you accept from this man.
It will then become very natural to not make the first move and not ask him for explanations when he feels distant. Instead, you will focus on yourself and become the best version of yourself. This makes you irresistible in the eyes of a man. Especially when you see that he is no longer on a pedestal!
One thing I know for sure about men is that when you start ignoring them, they immediately start missing you. So, if you want to win over the man you love or make him want you more, you should ignore him to attract him again. Romance is not easy. And sometimes you have to come up with good strategies to get the attention of the man you want.
When you value your time, you won’t need to ask him when he’ll be available next. He’ll ask you out with enough notice.
In case you get a last-minute text and find yourself accepting, you’ve made yourself available right away. We women often waste our free time being available for a man. One of the best things you can do to protect your precious time is to stick to a schedule. Your life and your projects come first, because you value yourself.
Stop lowering your self-esteem!
When you make the mistake of doing everything in a relationship, you damage your self-esteem and temporarily erode your self-worth. You are losing your self-esteem because you are wondering: maybe I am not enough for him. If you already find yourself doubting yourself, there is something you can do today to change that. Start listing three extraordinary qualities about yourself every day. Do it in front of the mirror every morning. You are the most important person in your life!
