Monogamy can be very handy: a devoted and supportive partner, affection — and sex whenever you want it. On the other hand, monogamy can reduce the excitement and passion of your sexual life, leaving you unsatisfied and even bored. Monogamy can be hard when you are steeped in the routine that repeats day after day — and here you are, all indifferent and bored by the same house, same actions, same sex.
Speaking about unexciting sex, it is often the main cause of women’s cheat. Think about it, after years and years of having sex with the same person you can realize that everything has become predictable and mundane; this is what happens to most couples. Thus many women fall into temptation wondering what their sexual life would have been like with another partner. If the subconscious tortures you with this thought, consider taking a little break in your relationship and going away on holidays alone just for the change of scenery’s sake. Do not regard this as a lucky opportunity to switch your mind over to other men and cheat — try to find a way to perk up your current relationship and sex.
Another motive to fall a victim to temptation can actually be problems in your couple. If there are difficulties on the emotional level, try to sort them out and find their mover before going into lying. It is important to be honest and speak your mind whatever you and your partner are going through together. If you are quite happy with your relationship, but worry about lack of fresh feelings and experience, make an attempt to understand what pain your behavior may cause the person whom you affirm to love dearly.
If you are not being faithful, how can you hope for a relationship based on love? Mind to define what you can and cannot do as a faithful partner and don’t walk into the trap of lust if you know beforehand it threatens a good relationship with your man. Before you cast prudence to the wind, think about what it will cost you.
As an alternative, you can pretend nothing happened, but just imagine that one day the truth may come out. Of course, a one-night adventure is only a little entertainment for you, but there is a risk that afterwards you can feel guilty and dirty.
Think twice before making a step you may regret and remember the following thing: once — only once — you ‘taste the blood’, you are hooked, to say nothing of that you can’t rewind, the play is real.
You can feel a fit of impulsive, momentary desires, but you will soon understand that it is a natural reaction to an attractive male. You have to realize that temptation can strike you wherever you are, be it in shop or at work — you can be surrounded by attractive men and an attentive glance can inspire you with passion at any moment.
- Will you be able to overcome the feeling of guilt?
- Reflect over it for a moment: how will you be able to look your partner in the eye after a night with someone else?
- It is easy to fancy a nocturnal naughtiness with another man, but will it be that easy to confront the feeling of guilt?
- Try to step into his shoes and feel what he would. He might never discover your treacheries, but can you bet your bottom dollar
that your relationship is based on mutual trust and love?
As flesh and blood we always seek something more, especially in regard to sexual attraction. Once you enter the world of temptation, nothing can satisfy you. If you have started to flirt with a colleague, try to keep your distance. It would be helpful to create an imaginary border that you are not allowed to pass.
The thought of having fun with another man can be very tempting, but will you be ready to return to your partner afterwards? Are you ready to break up only for the sake of a brief attraction?
Be frank and serious and answer yourself whether you love him enough to resist the desire to cheat. Realize that when your relationship is based on trust and love — you are merely not afraid to be tempted. If a man likes you and made a declaration of love, don’t hide anything from your partner and tell him so that your connection will improve and get even stronger owing to mutual trust.
If you are inclined to conceal all your affectionate glances and flirting, you will inevitably start to fantasize and eventually desire a sexual adventure. Stop hiding your temptations and from now on get rid of the thoughts about it as well, manage to resist them and conquer them. Unfortunately, a thought which obsesses you for quite a while tends to get real.
Therefore, substitute your fantasies of cheating with thoughts aimed at sensual upgrading of your current relationship. So, before taking the critical step, ask yourself whether it is worth risking for some hours in bed with someone else. When the temptation burns you from the inside, remember the beautiful person next to you: do you think he really deserves all this? Would he do that to you?
