We are all at different points in our lives, and while you are ready and willing to commit, he may not want to.
The crazy thing is that a man can set the pace for how a relationship develops. At first, he will do everything he can to make you fall in love and then suddenly a man is not ready for a serious relationship. It can be incredibly frustrating. You want to know what happened. It’s actually simple. He was falling for you and pursuing you because he had you on a pedestal. Then he loses interest. Maybe you fell in love with him, maybe you told him about your feelings or wanted to spend more time together.
A man is typically afraid of commitment because he is worried about losing his freedom and independence. He wants to keep you as an option, but he still wants to meet other girls.
A man is afraid of commitment because the relationship is moving too fast. This happens when you give him too much, too soon and he ends up thinking he can do whatever he wants. Think about it this way: if he has all the elements of a serious relationship without chasing you, why would he want to commit?
Here are some tips on how to deal with a man who doesn’t want to commit:
When you know where things are going, it’s best to communicate. He may not know what you want. Don’t point fingers. Don’t blame. Be honest. Ask him what he wants and what he thinks you want. And sometimes, a man may want the same thing you want, but he wasn’t communicating it well. I’ve seen so many women handle this conversation in terrible ways. They get angry, they get emotional, they try to win him over and convince him to have a serious relationship.
Accept reality! If you want more than he wants, don’t torture yourself or feel guilty. If it seems too hard to accept, remember that dating a man who doesn’t want to commit is also difficult. You can walk away and give him space and time to figure out his feelings for you. For example, you could say, “I want to be with you, but I can see that you’re not ready. So let’s take a break and talk about it when you’re ready.”
Nothing to prove! The mistake some women make is to put themselves in a position where they think they have to prove to the man they love that he is worth it. If you make the same mistake, the only thing that happens as a result is that it makes you look needy and puts you in a weak position. You become less attractive in the eyes of the man you love and the whole situation gets worse.
Once you’ve had the conversation and you’ve found that he just doesn’t want to commit right now, let him be. Easier said than done, but it will get easier over time. From there, start spending some time away from him.
It might be hard at first, especially if you’ve been used to being close to him, but space is what you need right now. If you keep hanging out with him right now, you’ll just be left hanging out, pining for him for too long.
You should never push a man into a situation he doesn’t want. If you want him to commit, he’s going to have to want to do it himself.
He’s not going to change his mind even if you try to be someone you’re not. He’s basically told you that he likes you, but he doesn’t like you enough to commit to you. In other words, you two aren’t together. You can be his friend, but you risk leaving him wanting more.
You don’t have to wait for him!
He’s keeping you stuck in a situation and you’re not showing him what he could lose. If you wait for him, it won’t set you apart from other women, and that’s not what you want. You need to turn the tables! A much better option is to focus on yourself.
Don’t just sit around waiting for him. Try to get the idea of you and him out of your mind. If he’s in love with you, he’ll come after you again, but your attempt to force the situation won’t lead to your so-called happy ending.
When you love a man and he doesn’t want the same thing, it can hurt a lot. And that’s perfectly normal, but feeling sorry for yourself is not an option!
Get busy with your life, find a new hobby, go out with friends, try meeting other men, and see if you like someone else. Focus on yourself and build up your self-esteem!
The fact that you expressed interest in a serious relationship with him, and now that you’re out of the way and living your life to the fullest, he’ll be eager to know what you’re up to. It’s normal human curiosity. There’s a chance that this might make him see things differently, and he’ll suddenly be open to that relationship. If that’s the case, it’s time to make him wait.
You need to teach him how to treat you!
Men respond to action, so you need to show through your actions that he needs to pursue you and make an effort to earn your love.
The sad truth is that many women push a man away with their attitude. For example, when a man seems disinterested, they chase him in hopes of gaining his attention and approval. This lowers your value in his eyes, because you are giving him something he hasn’t earned.
Give him space and show him that you are okay being alone. Most importantly, remember to meet him halfway. This means when he invests, you invest. When he steps back, you step back. Pace is important!
