It can never be easy to keep contact with your ex lover. The problem occurs when there are a lot of phone conversations and meetings with his ex. Greetings exchange in the street or on Facebook sounds normal and acceptable, but deeper connection with the ex cannot be tolerated and it threatens the future of your relationship.
I often receive the following question: can my man keep friendly relationship with his ex? I do not think that is something normal, because the most of men consider it very difficult to keep a friendly relationship with their ex by whose side they lived moments of deep intimacy. But there are also men who end up very easily a relationship transforming it into a friendly relationship.
There is a very slight border separating the notions of attraction and politeness. This slight line is often too fragile and can get us confused. Every man is different, many find it easier to perceive their ex only in the role of friend, but the others still live with the possession feeling.
How often does he get in touch with his ex?
The answer to this question can help you to understand what kind of relationship unites your man and his ex. Do you trust him? Sometimes, even if you can trust him, it is normally to feel worried because of the one of his ex lovers. Even if he is a faithful man, be aware that you can always get burnt, if you play with fire. If you feel threatened by the presence of his ex, discuss it with your partner.
Insecurity is an acceptable emotion within a relationship. You must not get angry with him because of his silence, only because you have not found enough courage to talk about your feelings. Do not expect for an irreversible moment. Reciprocal respect is one of the elementary components of genuine love relationship. If the man contradicts you instead of calming down, it is clear that the relationship with his ex is more important for him than the relationship with you.
When should you question their friendship?
She might try to get the man back. Now she understood how amazing and special he is. Even if you revealed your feelings, she can still insist. She is determined to grip into him with no matter what price. Despite of their ended relationship, she still needs his emotional support.
You are in danger, if the man has secrets regarding his friendship with ex. He can hide when they met at café or what kind of subjects they discussed. He does not like when you verify his cell phone nor likes to reply when you stay in the same room with him, sometimes he leaves everything behind when he reads her message or quits the room during his discussion with her. If their friendship is so innocent and pure, why is he lying to you?
Your man treats his ex like his best friend, revealing everything to her, bear in mind that there can be something more than friendship. The sad truth is that he might be in your arms but still bearing love feelings for his ex. We women are very different, every woman has her own level of jealousy and insecurity in love. If your man defends the relationship with his ex, then perhaps it would be better to think about what kind of man you have by your side.
Remember that there is nothing to worry about in the friendship of your man with his ex, but if she seems more important than you, then you should prohibit this kind of connection. If you have started recently dating him, then it can happen that a man keeps a friendly relation with his ex. You have all rights to feel angry, if he talks to her on phone for hours. If they ended their relationship due to their incompatibility, what is the purpose of keeping a friendly relationship then?
Our intuition does not usually quit us. If you feel that your man and his ex do something inappropriate behind you, it is probably true. Maybe there are reasons explaining their friendship, but try to analyze them with open mind before exploding. If you notice that the situation has not changed so far, even after you confessed your feelings about it, then the best thing you can do is to put him in front of dilemma: to choose either you or her. If he wants you more than her, he will end up this chapter for sure.
