Being always available is not the way to stay in a man’s heart and mind. Even if you feel like calling an elusive man right now, ask him for an explanation or a second chance. This is not the way to get a man to come back.
You’ll show him that he can have you whenever he wants. Or, he’ll think of you as too needy and predictable and will shy away from you. When you’re always available and clingy, you’ll never be able to convince a man to commit to you or win him back.
Does silence make a man miss you? Yes, it does! But you just have to play your cards right! Silence works if it gives a man a healthy fear of losing you. You give him the gift of missing you. You remind him that your relationship isn’t predictable. Leaving a man alone will make him come back to you. As ironic as it may sound, it’s the basis of male psychology.
If a man likes you, using silence will drive him crazy and attract him. Seeing a text from him, but taking your time to respond, is disconcerting for him who is used to controlling the conversation. Silence is especially effective when it gives a man some time to think about the value of this relationship. Will he wonder if you are seeing another man? If you have forgotten about him? If you are no longer in love? All along you were always available, and now, suddenly, you are no longer anywhere.
Why is silence powerful with a man?
Silence works, because he cannot predict your next move. Silence works if it confuses him and takes him out of his routine. A man has no idea what you have been doing, where you have been. He has no idea if this is all a game or if you have really stopped loving him or found another man.
Walk away from a man is necessary if he is losing interest in you or is pulling away from too much affection. All this leaves him perplexed, confused, doubtful and after a while he can’t take it anymore, he will try to get all the answers he wants.
Your silence tells him, “I’m giving you more independence and less affection. I’m happy without you. I can live just fine without you. Maybe I’m not in love anymore.” By changing your routine, you’re sending a message that every action gets a reaction. If he changes, you change. The situation changes. This will get his attention and most of the time a man will stop taking you for granted.
He has no idea if you’re doing this to get him back or to forget about him. You need to be aware that this man isn’t sure if this is all part of your game or if you’ve actually lost interest in him.
A man in this position has no idea that he’s actually bait. You’ll get a text asking for help with the stupidest thing. Remember, these are all excuses. He doesn’t want to give you a chance to reject him, so he’ll find a reason to contact you.
Keeping silent will be a great help if a man is pulling away or feeling too smothered by affection. Essentially, you are letting him know that he is free to have his space and free to walk away if that is what he wants.
You will not beg him to come back because you know your worth and have respect for yourself. Silence is powerful because it is a sign of your strength and confidence. Silence shows him that you are not afraid of losing him.
When Silence Doesn’t Work:
Silence won’t work if a man is not interested. A man wants to feel that there is something special about you, a value that no one else has. A man will not be eager to pursue you if there hasn’t been much in the way of emotional involvement. If you never show him a special side of yourself, silence will only make him forget.
Silence won’t work if he hasn’t invested a lot in you.
A woman who is too difficult at first and rejects him usually turns a man off. Men like a challenge, but after a while they give up if you are too hard to get.
It is hard enough for a man to work up the courage to talk to a new girl and find something interesting to say, rather than worry about rejection. Silence too early in a new relationship could actually scare him away.
Silence won’t work if he feels taken for granted.
A man wants to be there for you and make you happy, but he expects certain things: like respect, kindness, and trust. But negative experiences, like infidelity, disrespect, or emotional distance, push a man away.
Once he realizes that he is being taken for granted and that you don’t appreciate the effort he puts in, he may change his behavior drastically. He may decide that he has tried hard enough.
And when he reaches that point of no return, silence doesn’t stop him from walking away. This is why it is very important to make sure that your love story is built primarily on positive and loving experiences.
