You are in love with a wonderful man, but he doesn’t seem ready to commit, this man doesn’t want to commit. Something is holding him back and you are in the friend zone of the bed. It’s time to take control of the situation!
If you want to go from “he doesn’t want a serious relationship” to “he wants to spend my life with you”, find out what to avoid and above all what to do to make him commit.
You see a future with him, but every time you talk, he ends up distancing himself and doesn’t want to hear anything about it anymore. He keeps repeating that he likes the way your story is and that he doesn’t want to commit to something serious, because he is not ready for a relationship.
No man is looking for a serious relationship. On the other hand, a man who meets a woman who impresses him, who attracts him, who he misses, who is afraid of losing her, will naturally commit. If this man doesn’t want a serious relationship with you yet, it may be because he hasn’t felt the fear of losing you yet!
The main reason why a man doesn’t want a serious relationship with a woman is not because he has problems at work or because his ex hurt him. The main reason is this: he is not afraid of losing you. Very often you do everything to reassure him and you are wrong.
The truth is often simpler: he is not yet ready to give up his freedom for an exclusive relationship with you. He is not yet ready to give up other women. He is not yet emotionally invested enough. Maybe there is something in you that makes him not want to commit to you. It may be less likely than the other reasons, but it is still possible, so talk to him about it.
When a man does not seem ready to commit, there are some mistakes you should definitely avoid:
1. Invest too much even if he does not want to commit
If this man is not yet ready to “give up everything” for you, do not make the classic mistake of committing too much. When he does not want a serious relationship, many women make the classic mistake of doubling down on their efforts to please him. This attempt is always counterproductive, because in reality you are rewarding an attitude that you do not like. So stop being too available and stop showing yourself too much in love, be balanced.
If you give him all the benefits of a serious relationship, without being in a serious relationship, I can assure you that he will have no reason to commit further. And the same goes for sex. Don’t give him everything at once!
2. Interrogate him to find out if it is serious or not
Men do not like to be trapped in the interrogation. Do not question him about the nature of his feelings towards you and his attitude. Do not try to get him to tell you why he refuses a serious relationship: there is a good chance that he himself does not have a truly valid reason, nor a fully conscious one…
Such an interrogation will make you look like a needy woman, and ends up pushing him away. He may feel like he has no room to breathe if he commits to you, even if you think you have done nothing to make him feel suffocated in the relationship.
Be patient and let him express himself when he feels it. Let him come to you…
3. Do not waste any more precious time decoding him!
Another mistake is to overinterpret the situation, to make a thousand assumptions to understand his true intentions. And to lend him a series of reasons that he absolutely does not have, or even excuses that he does not deserve.
4. Try to convince him that you are the right woman for him
With a man who does not want a serious relationship, the worst mistake would be to try to convince him.
“If we were really together, we could…”, “If you agreed to commit to me, we could…” This type of attitude can in no way arouse desire in a man. Never beg a man to be with you!
You must not try to make him change his mind with arguments… Do not try to convince him, do not try to enter his heart. You must gradually lead him to feel what he has never felt.
5. Do not listen too much to your friends
“What do you think?”, “What should I do?”. It is natural to ask your friends. They will tell you, for example, to give him an ultimatum, to lay your cards on the table, to talk to him about your feelings, because life is too short to waste time… Or on the contrary, they will tell you to stop going out with him and that he does not deserve you!
A man who doesn’t want a serious relationship can gradually realize that you are the woman of his life, provided that you take the right actions. With intelligence, elegance and balance.
6. Stop talking about commitment!
First, to get him to commit to a serious relationship without pressure, you have to stop talking about it. Because you are pressuring him and no man wants to be pressured or forced into anything, let alone commit to a long-term relationship. No one likes pressure because pressure leads to stress and who wants to be with someone who stresses you out?
Once you stop talking about it, he will think that you are over the idea of commitment, so he will eventually wonder why and think about commitment even more.
