On first dates, many men focus only on themselves and do not care about how a woman might feel, taken by the anxiety of giving the best image of themselves. They boast about their success, work, adventures with other women all evening. A woman gets bored because she listens to an endless monologue in which she never feels involved in the interaction.
On first dates with a new man, try to discover the values that belong to this man, not simple data! What is really important at the beginning is to understand what kind of person he is. Find out if he shares your values, if he is kind, curious, ambitious and intelligent.
Instead of listening to his successes, invite him to talk about his passions and what he considers significant in his life. Moving the conversation from the logical to the emotional level creates a feeling between you. When you ask a man an emotional question, his answer will reveal his true values.
If you ask questions that lead a man to talk about his interests or passions, you gain this:
1. He has had the opportunity to experience positive feelings, which he will later associate with the fact of talking to you and therefore you have created rapport.
2. You have expanded the conversation so that he can also ask you the same questions to get to know you.
You are about to discover some tips on how to make a man fall in love on the first dates:
During the first dates the fundamental thing is to understand if there is chemistry between you, which is that spark that encourages you to get to know him better. Sexual attraction will push him to desire you physically. He will experience the feeling that is what makes him emotionally attracted to you.
Chemistry between two people = sharing the same values + physical attraction.
You can ask a man questions and make the conversation interesting:
provoke him, create curiosity, simulate seriousness, ask a more engaging question.
Unlike a date between two boyfriends, at the beginning the meetings should not last an entire evening. A good meeting can last even thirty minutes. It could be a meeting for an ice cream in a place near work or a breakfast. You could take this man with you when you do something with your friends such as the theater, cinema, museum.
With a question: “do you want to come with my friends?” you are not asking him on a real date, you are just starting to get to know him from afar. You are gradually sowing the seeds for subsequent real dates.
You could say to him, in the middle of a conversation, a proposal like: “My friends keep talking to me about this movie, but I haven’t seen it yet. Is it really that good? I would really like to go see it, before they take it out of theaters!”
In this way you are not really inviting him on a real date, but you are suggesting that you see a movie together, which he might also be interested in. Even if you have planted the idea of a date, he must not have the feeling that he has won you over and that as a result he could take you to bed. You must always remain a challenge for him!
On a date, you start to get nervous, anxious and think: “I really like him, I don’t want to scare him!” You want to be perfect to attract him and remove every obstacle in the way of a potential relationship. You don’t know how to make him understand that you are a woman worthy of being courted.
Don’t always be available to a man, emphasize your value. Let him know that you are available to see him, but not at any time! I know that you really like this guy, but don’t become available all the time! Even if you gave him your number, you have high standards and you will not automatically be free for him every time he calls or texts you.
Now that you have planted the seed, invite him with your behavior to do more for you. You have already given him your number, but now also let him know that you are a woman to be appreciated and that it is always possible that he will fail. Avoid letting him know that you are bored and needy in bed.
The mistake that many women make on first dates is to say to a man: “I want to get to know you better, tonight we go to that new place?” In this way he begins to feel chased!
When you hear from him on the phone, avoid sounding too available. Your messages should be fun and flirty, with the sole purpose of arousing curiosity. When a man receives a message from you, he should feel an emotion. The messages should pique his interest and the trick is to be concise, but effective. There is no room for long essays and summaries of everything that happens. Save the details for when you see him in person.
Texting a man for hours may give you the feeling of building a relationship, but it is an illusion. If you become too familiar with each other via text messages at the beginning of your acquaintance, the next time you see each other you will end up in bed before having created emotional attraction, which is what you should instead establish with him.
