It is very difficult to stand up in front of the charming personality of a successful man and it is even more difficult to work together, and being at the same time attracted to him. Many relationships are born at the working place, because both partners have a good compatibility and their own interests. If you have started a secret relationship with your boss, realistically it is not so bad, however, my darling, you should bear in mind some essential things regarding your relationship development.
Love at working place is not something new and these stories will occur in the future too. It is easier to have an affair with a colleague than with your boss. The most important thing you should make sure since the beginning – keeping the relationship hidden, in order to avoid conflicts with your colleagues, a hidden relationship can at the same time bring the feelings of low confidence.
It is very easy getting attracted to your boss, because he is your inspiration and you can really admire him, then you subconsciously search for his attention and gratitude, he replies via flirting and this type of attraction can be easily mistaken with love. If you have a secret love affair with your boss and you are sure of being the only woman in his life, then it is a strong hidden relationship, but in case you feel used or betrayed, this hidden affair can cause only frustration and confusion feelings because you have nobody to talk to about this subject.
I suggest you some techniques for better management of relationship with your boss:
Remember: never mix up your professional and private life. Avoid to seduce or date your boss only from career considerations. If he is attracted to you, you should be happy that he chose you among the other colleagues. Any relationship with boss is different, but this relationship can sometimes put you into a difficult situation where you become dependent from him, but if the things do not work properly between the two of you, what can happen to your job? A conflict can grow up into a war of Ego in which he tries to subdue you.
How can you keep jealousy inside? He certainly has to interact with the other women during work, or may meet up others for business. When you have a hidden love affair with your boss, there is a risk that one day another colleague will try to seduce him via flirting and sensual gestures, in this case you cannot interfere directly, because your relationship is hidden. If you discover that he is flirting with another woman, do not try to control him, just try to discuss with him revealing your feelings about it. If he is really attached to you, he will never repeat it again. When you are in love with a man, it is very difficult not revealing to him your feelings of tenderness or not exchanging some sweet gazes in public.
What will your colleagues think, if they discover about your love affair with boss? Like it often happens, your success and promotions will be associated with the fact of sleeping with your boss, not taking into consideration your real efforts, thus an atmosphere filled with intrigues will dominate at the office.
If your work mates find out about your secret relationship, this will make them jealous up to hatred towards the thing done by you, but even if relationship remains hidden, you will keep on feeling insecure because you keep silence and offer to any woman the free access to flirting with your man. There are no established rules for better working of your relationship with boss, the best thing is to discuss and to establish some clear demarcation lines.
I think that a man tends to have a secret relationship only in case he is not sure about his feelings. I know that you want to shout loudly about how much you love him, but the sad truth is that he is insecure about the feelings he bears towards you. He does not think he will make a wise step by making your relationship public, because he is not sure about your relationship and the development of it into something serious.
Any relationship is difficult and it does not mean that any man willing to have a hidden relationship with you is not really interested in you, he possibly has his own reasons making him keep the relationship secret. Even if at the beginning the idea of secret relationship seems exciting, the impact of emotions can make you feel insecure. The positive or either negative feature is that at the end the relationship should have a logical end – either a wedding or a break up.
