Knowing when to break up and when to fight for love can be confusing. It’s all very confusing when you want to build a loving relationship and stay in love, but at the same time don’t waste years in a relationship that you don’t know where it’s going.
It hurts to let go of the man you love. On the other hand, being with someone who just uses you, and never gives back, can leave you with big emotional wounds.
You’re about to discover 7 signs that it’s not time to give up on your relationship yet:
1. Neither of you want to break up.
It means that you are both still willing to put in the effort needed to make this relationship work. The stress in the relationship seems to come from people who want to break you up, or from difficult circumstances, rather than from the two of you.
If you can work through your issues and still find joy in each other’s company most of the time, then there is no point in ending the relationship. Have an honest conversation about how you can both improve. You might be surprised at how strong your relationship can be after honest communication with your partner.
2. Even if you fight, you enjoy your life together.
True love has a positive effect on you. You enjoy who you are. Maybe you fight because you are both stressed to the point of irrationality, but you are happy to be in this relationship. If you still love your life together, then yes, the relationship is worth keeping.
Say goodbye to routine!
Routine and the loss of feelings that come with it are often one of the causes of a breakup. If you constantly do the same things together, if all your outings are always in the same place or if you always let him take the initiative, you will have a hard time getting him to love you.
Always doing the same thing will end up boring you! If you are not proactive, he may only consider you a friend with benefits. You need to keep the flame between you alive for as long as possible and that requires you to show yourself differently from other women.
3. You don’t have a reason why you should break up.
There is always a specific “why” when you are about to break up. You know exactly why you can’t live with him and why it will never work. Because you realize the irreconcilable differences. He knows it too, even if he denies it. When you have specific reasons why you give up on the relationship, then it is time to let him go. Everyone is stressed and bored. You need to talk to him about why you are unhappy. When you talk openly about the problem, you give him the opportunity to change.
4. The man you love makes an effort to change bad habits.
If your partner is still trying to change for the better, then there’s always a chance the relationship can still work. If you still love him, you’ll be thrilled to see him make changes, changes that will save the relationship. You’ll also work to change some of the negative things that are bothering you. Change is good, when it doesn’t take away your freedom.
But here’s something you’ll notice in every relationship that ends… the partners refuse to change. They won’t negotiate. They don’t care about the other person’s feelings, or at least not enough to compromise. They just don’t value the relationship enough to make changes to please the other.
Equally frustrating is living with a man who promises to make changes, but never actually makes a sincere effort. He talks and promises and always disappoints you.
5. Thinking about your relationship makes you happy.
Every couple will go through difficult times. If the idea of the two of you being together and happy still makes you smile, it seems like a relationship worth maintaining. If you are happy with him, that is evidence of a strong emotional connection.
6. You can still compromise.
Stubbornness is a sign of immaturity and doomed relationships. You will never gain any “power” just by standing your ground. If you have a man who is compressive and attentive to everything, then be happy.
A happy relationship survives thanks to compromises that can make love grow. Two people stay together because love allows compromise. It is no longer about who is right or who is wrong. You love each other enough to compromise, to make each other happy.
Accept that he is not perfect!
You need to appreciate your man for who he is and not for who you want him to be. If you show him that you care, he will give you all the love you need, but you also need to know how to think about yourself and not necessarily act just to please him.
7. You still have empathy.
Couples on the verge of breaking up really lose the ability to “empathize” with the other. A happy relationship is based on honest communication and empathy for your partner’s point of view. If you lose that, it’s really an uphill battle. You don’t understand your partner’s motivations…
Let your heart guide you. Although it is true that sometimes our heart is not a good judge and gets us into trouble. But it can tell you if you are still in love. Even if there are difficult moments in the couple, your heart always knows if it is worth holding on and if things will change for the better.
