Chasing a man might feel weird or even awkward. If he rejects you, it will really hurt. While it is true that the social climate is changing and women are more outgoing these days, it is important to understand the difference between chasing a man and simply being more outgoing and friendly.
The point is, if you are “trying too hard to get him” then you are only making things harder. In this article, we will look at some reasons why you should stop trying to get a man:
You are about to discover 7 reasons to stop chasing a man:
1. You are trying too hard to get him and you are not being yourself.
The deeper issue here is that you are trying to impress him and you are putting all your effort into getting him and yet that is not your true self. In a few years, regardless of whether you win or lose, you will realize that you put so much effort into trying to achieve a goal, that you never stopped to ask yourself if it was really worth it.
Your true self would not chase a man who only has limited interest in you. Your judgment is clouded right now because you want to win and have what you cannot have.
2. To make a man chase you, it is very important to focus on improving yourself.
Chasing him takes the attention away from you. He becomes the “valuable asset”, and not you. This will not paint you in an attractive light. In fact, it is better to focus on self-improvement, that is, looking and acting more attractive. That not only gets his attention, but also makes you feel more confident.
If you stop chasing a man (because you don’t really need it) you absorb that value. You increase in value. A man senses your confidence and they start paying more attention to your words, your appearance, and your life. He understands that there is something special about you. Something unique.
3. If you try too hard, if you beg for his love, he will always blame you for forcing him into a relationship he wasn’t ready for.
Does this sound like a loving relationship to you? When you chase a man, you give him too much power. If you don’t give him the opportunity to realize that he loves you, how will he ever appreciate your qualities?
4. If he isn’t trying to chase you, there’s something wrong!
It’s possible that he’s shy or doesn’t know how to woo a woman. On the other hand, here are some common reasons why a man might flirt, but not want to pursue you seriously.
He doesn’t know what he wants, which puts you in a bad position.
His only interest in you is sexual and he doesn’t want to lead you on.
He’s married or has a girlfriend.
He’s not attracted to you. He won’t change, unfortunately.
If you’re chasing him and he’s not that interested, you’ll be emotionally and mentally invested before you know it.
You’ll end up getting attached and he’s not even that interested! Let him invest his time, energy and emotion in this story. His investment will make him more attracted to you, it will allow him to fall in love with you.
5. The harder you try to win him over, the more desperate you seem.
When you try so hard to chase a man who isn’t sure if he wants you, it seems like you’re desperate: Desperate for love. Desperate for him. Desperate for sex. Desperate for a relationship, any relationship, even if it’s toxic.
These are not attractive qualities. You should always maintain high standards in your relationship.
This is not only attractive to a man, but it will also protect you from some really bad romances that only end up hurting you.
6. It lowers your value in his eyes and also lowers your self-esteem.
Unfortunately, wanting it so badly – at the expense of your pride – will only make him ask “what’s wrong with you?” Why is he trying to convince me that we’re good together, instead of letting me figure it out for myself?
Aggressively putting yourself out there, while commendable in terms of courage, actually decreases your value in his eyes. If something is rare or hard to get, it increases its value. If something is free or really cheap, it’s not romantic, not attractive, not anything special.
7. The relationship won’t grow.
If you are doing all the work and trying to push and push the relationship forward, he will stand back and let it happen. A man tends to take a woman for granted when she is the one doing all the work.
You deserve to be a man’s priority! Let a man commit to you, pursue you, and show you that he is the right man for you. You deserve a man who loves you and sees you with the right woman for him. And don’t settle for anything less because that’s how you get into a loving relationship.
